There is a point in most organisations I’ve worked in where neither decisiveness nor restraint is enough.

Most Chairs, CEOs, and senior executives recognise this inflection point, even if they don’t name it.

It arrives when complexity stops responding to effort, when certainty no longer settles the room, and when the familiar moves of leadership begin to feel… insufficient.

Not wrong.

Just incomplete.

At this level, the issue is rarely leadership competence. It’s rarely intelligence, experience, or intent.

It’s something quieter.

A sense that the system itself has become unstable and that no amount of direction, alignment, or reassurance will fully correct for it.

When Complexity Stops Yielding

Many leadership models still assume complexity is a temporary state of being:

It is something to be managed, simplified, or powered through.

But some conditions are not transitional.

They are now structural.

In these conditions:

• More information can increase noise

• Faster decisions can amplify risk

• Strong alignment can conceal real divergence

• Confidence can begin to distort signal

What begins to erode first is not strategy.

It’s judgment under sustained pressure. Constant turbulence.

And…judgment does not improve by pushing harder.

A Different Orientation

There is another way leaders respond at this threshold, often without language for it.

They stop adding force.

They stop filling space.

They stop trying to stabilise the system through visibility alone.

Instead, something else happens.

They level in.

Not retreating.

Not disengaging.

Not turning inward for reflection’s sake.

But settling into a kind of internal coherence that allows uncertainty to be met without distortion.

Levelling in is less about action and more about orientation.

What Changes When Leaders Level In

When leaders level in, something subtle but unmistakable occurs:

• Conversations slow just enough for truth to surface

• People stop performing certainty

• Risk becomes discussable rather than defended against

• Decisions become fewer and more consequential

The system doesn’t become calm because it’s controlled.

It becomes calm because it’s no longer being resisted.

This is not softness.

It’s containment.

Belonging, Reconsidered

Belonging is often framed as a cultural aspiration.

At executive and Board level, it shows up differently.

Here, belonging means:

• Not having to posture confidence

• Not splitting personal values from professional duty

• Not carrying system anxiety alone

• Not compensating for incoherent structures with personal resilience

Levelling in creates the conditions where leaders themselves can belong inside their roles not just survive them.

And when that happens, systems behave differently.

This Is Not About Doing Less

Levelling in does not reduce accountability.

It sharpens it.

Because when leaders stop oscillating between over-functioning and withdrawal, responsibility can land where it actually belongs.

Decisions made from this place tend to:

• Hold second- and third-order consequences in check

• Respect governance without hiding behind it

• Integrate people risk as system risk

• Trade urgency for judgment when it matters most

Many leaders sense this shift long before they trust it.

A Quiet Question

If you’re operating at senior level, it may be worth asking:

When uncertainty increases, do you feel pressure to add more or to hold more cleanly?

Levelling in doesn’t resolve complexity.

It meets it.

And in doing so, changes how leadership is experienced by others, and by the system itself.

For a long time, I thought leadership was about altitude.

Rising above complexity. Gaining perspective.

Creating distance from the noise long enough to see clearly.

That capacity matters. Perspective changes judgement.

But what’s rarely discussed is the landing.

Landing a balloon isn’t a repeatable manoeuvre.

There is no fixed point you can reliably return to.

You don’t descend into certainty — you descend into conditions.

The wind shifts. The temperature changes. The ground is no longer where it was before.

Even if you aimed for the same place, you couldn’t land there again.

You can’t step into the same river twice — and you can’t land the same balloon on the same spot twice either.

At some point, this stops being a metaphor and actually becomes operational truth.

Leadership doesn’t fail because people lack vision. It falters when they try to apply yesterday’s landing to today’s conditions.

The work is not staying aloft indefinitely, and it’s not perfecting a single method that once worked.

It’s learning to read what’s present.

Sometimes that means hovering longer.

Sometimes it means committing to descent.

Sometimes it means lifting again — not from indecision, but discernment.

Stability doesn’t come from landing in the same place.

It comes from trusting your capacity to land — wherever the conditions allow.

No forcing. No attachment to prior ground. No performance of certainty.

Just contact. Feet on earth. Hands on the basket. Attention intact.

When this experience becomes embodied, the background pressure to get it right eases.

You’re no longer chasing perspective. You’re no longer resisting reality.

You’re navigating.

Unlearning.

Unbecoming.

Unfolding.

Unravelling.

They sound a lot like loss, don’t they? Like we’re taking something apart or deleting parts of ourselves that we’ve spent years building. The grief of letting go of what no longer serves us, can really keep us stuck and unable to move forward. Fear of uncertainty.

But what if the uns aren’t about loss at all?

What if they’re about making space, space for breathing a little deeper, developing new skills, adapting to change or whatever’s waiting to show up in life?

When the world feels uncertain (and let’s be honest, it does for most of us, at-least some of the time) our first instinct is to grip tighter to know, to plan, to control. But uncertainty doesn’t need us to wrestle it into shape. It needs a bit of scaffolding. A few edges. A rhythm that helps us stay upright while things shift around us.

That’s where the uns come in. They give uncertainty some language, a pattern, some definition.

They help our nervous systems unclench. Yeh, another great “un” word. Those muscles could be used for far more interesting things if only we learn to let go.

Here are a few of my favourites - the ones that keep me grounded when things feel foggy:

• Unlearn - consciously releasing and composting any beliefs, feelings, knowledge, anything or anyone that no longer nourishes my being.

• Unfold - giving myself permission to pause whilst things reveal themselves on their own time.

• Unravel - lean into curiosity, follow the threads that go deeper, look for the wisdom and insights that reframe my thoughts and philosophy of life.

• Untether - loosening the grip of of stories that once defined me. The ones that kept me playing small.

• Unmask - show up as the real me me, not the role, not the stereotype, nor the one who silences herself to maintain the comfort of others.

• Unbind - soften my relationship with my body, soften the edges of my mind. Follow my intuition, trust myself more.

• Unveil - let my wisdom rise to the occasion when it’s ripe, when it’s ready.

• Unbecome - remembering myself before all the shoulds and have to’s showed up.

• Unarm - lead myself without defensiveness - create safety through openness, kindness and empathy.

• Unhurry - give myself a little more time to check in with my values and feelings before deciding.

• Unfix - stay flexible, remembering that all movement is data. Data then becomes strategic intelligence. It informs my next move, not my whole life.

Each of these words is like another breath out. A teeny, tiny act of recalibration. Resonance instead of dissonance.

I hope that they remind you that letting go isn’t about giving up, it’s trusting life to move through you again and again and again. Holding space for whatever comes. This is the human experience.

An invitation to play…

Pick three “un” words that resonate with you.

Ask yourself:

What wants to loosen or soften in me right now?

What might happen if I didn’t keep rushing to fill all the spaces in-between?

What is ready to unfurl in me - today?

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It is an act of liberation to walk across a bridge. Any bridge crossing we undertake in life takes us to a new place. A place that offers new perspectives, fresh insights, different conversations.

However… so many of us were taught to comply, follow the rules, even if they didn’t make sense. To perform. To protect. To perfect. It was the safest path, and for our own good. Who were we to argue?

But what we forget or we weren’t taught…is that we were also born to bridge. To lean in, learn and shape an uncertain future, whether it be for our own or others benefit. It doesn’t really matter as long as we all do our bit.

Most of us live much too long on one side of the bridge…the side that only knows how to survive.

Protective Intelligence keeps us safe. It’s structured, productive, watchful, and often rewarded.

Our default system.

But there’s another intelligence that’s been waiting and wanting to return.

A quieter one…intuitive, creative, playful, and deeply human.

This is Creative Intelligence.

And…the work of our time is learning to walk between the two.

This piece is a story of building bridges…each one symbolising a key stage of transformation and integration. How we come back to living and working from our whole integrated self.

Today, we begin with the first three.

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1.Address the Imbalance

“We begin where survival is necessary and may have become our dominant way of being.”

For many of us, Protective Intelligence forms the only internal structure we know. We learned to scan our environments, defend, produce, and persist. Pushing, forcing ourselves to fit into systems that weren’t accommodating or nurturing…blocking our natural creative drive.

Creative Intelligence?

It might feel a bit risky. Frivolous. Even optional. Not for you!? But here’s the thing…it never went anywhere. It’s just been waiting for the right time. The right conditions.

2.The Realignment

“Balance is not about symmetry. But it is about permission.”

Balance doesn’t necessarily mean equal strength either.

It is about allowing both protective and creative intelligences to speak. To converse, real time.

What if we made more room for play, for slowness, for meaning-making in our work?

What if we did more of what restores us, not just what keeps us busy. Chronic busy-ness, leads to burnout.

And…once we stop being so busy we start to remember that creativity is not indulgence. It’s how we integrate and make sense of life.

3.The First Crossing

“You only need one moment of trust.”

The invitation to walk the bridge can appear in the smallest of moments, moments that matter.

A boundary held softly

An openness to other perspectives

A day that begins without a plan

A colour or a song, that pulls you into a new rhythm and adds a spring to your step

Looking at nature and being in awe of its beauty, it’s presence and influence in our lives

A truth that is witnessed and felt deeply in the body, not just landing in the mind as a distraction or a fleeting thought

This is the first crossing. The way we begin to trust again.

Not from a place of weakness or depletion but a deeper knowing of what is possible. We move into a new coherence.

And once you cross, you never see the pillars or the bridge the same way again.

Part 2 Is Coming Soon…

In the next chapter, we explore:

The long bridge of integration

The rewilding of your system

And the bridge that builds itself… the one that appears only when you trust the next step

Reflection

Which pillar do I live from most often?

When have I felt the call to cross the bridge?

What quiet acts of creation have I been postponing?

Want to keep walking?

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We don’t need more productivity hacks. But we do need more time on the bridge. And…the courage to cross it, with the right support at the right time. This is how we create a future of our own making.

#Clarity #Leadership #Agency

We’ve all heard, seen and felt the pivot. Some more than others.

For some of us, it came as a Restructure. For some a Diagnosis. And for others maybe the Therapists Couch.

The whispers of “I can’t do this anymore” at 3am have been playing on our collective minds like a broken record. For others, it might feel more intense like a Flood, Burnout, Breakdown or even a Breakthrough.

And now, this current Pivot, it’s come in the form of AI. Perhaps the biggest plot twist of this generations working lives.

Fast. Frictionless. Everywhere. All at Once.

Rewriting the rules before we’ve even had time to read them! Or take a breath.

The Myth of the “Bounce-Back”

When massive disruption arrives, personally or collectively our natural reflex is often to “pivot.” To keep moving forward, no matter what. Progress with a capital P.

And we have always rewarded and celebrated those who bounce back. They become our heroes, the ones we look up to and tell us, we can do it too! We celebrate resilience.

But here’s the truth that’s becoming louder in my body and in the bodies of those I work with:

Resilience is no longer enough.

Because…what many of us called resilience was actually hyper-adaptation. Masking. Over-functioning. Over-thinking. Over-feeling. It is essentially crisis living.

Surviving systems and changes that change in the blink of an eye were never designed with our ability to adapt in real time. We didn’t actually pivot. We performed. We pushed through. And now…

The Rhythms of Life We Forgot

Many of us have lost our rhythm in the past few years. Some of us realised…painfully…that we never had one to begin with.

We were operating on someone else’s timeline. Moving to the beat of someone else’s urgency. Living by someone else’s “shoulds.”

Now, AI arrives…not just as a shiny new tool, but as a mirror. A force that is asking us:

What can be automated?

But more importantly: What MUST remain deeply human?

And beneath that:

What rhythm or pace of change does humanity actually require in order to thrive, not just survive?

Resonance over Resilience

In my work with leaders, executives and pro-bono clients who are navigating complexity…I see this shift unfolding every day:

The future of leadership isn’t faster. It’s about becoming more attuned to who we really are underneath all the noise. Scary stuff for some.

Leadership that honours rhythm over reaction. Resonance over resilience.

Not just surviving the plot twist, but remembering how to move in time with what really matters. Life.

Questions I’m sitting with…and offering to you:

• Where have I been pivoting or performing just to meet someone else’s expectations?

• What part or parts of me feel out of rhythm or sync right now?

• What’s the actual tempo of my next phase of becoming, my future self?

• What work is mine to automate? And… what work is mine to attune more deeply to?

A New Kind of Work

I believe we’re all being called to design many, many, many new way of workings and living. Not just with AI, but in tandem with our shared knowledge, our lived wisdom, our voices, our nervous systems, our own personal timing, our internal and external rythyms and most importantly our most sacred truth of who we actually are, beneath the masks we wear.

To create a future from emergence, not noise. To lead boldly and bravely with AI and Creative Intelligence. To reclaim the rhythms of life we might not even not know that we’ve been missing out on.

If this resonates, I’d love to hear what rhythm/s and other deeply human (non AI) practices you’re reclaiming for yourself right now. What are you saying no to? What are you saying yes to? What are you doing a little more slowly? And…what nugget of inner wisdom is guiding you forward at this moment?

Burning out. Burning up. Burning in. Burning off. Burning down. Each version speaks its own language.

Each flame has its own temperature, its own timing.

We use the word burning to describe so much:

Exhaustion. Anger. Grief. Growth. Revolution.

And maybe what we’re really saying is, I am burning, we are burning.

And I am burning.

For truth, for freedom, for rest, for realness.

For something that doesn’t just smoulder on the surface but something that transmutes at the core.

🔥What Is Burning, Really?

• Burning Out – The last flicker before collapse. Giving until there’s nothing left to give.

• Burning Up – A fever of injustice, of inflammation—when the body or soul saying too much.

• Burning In – Pressure held inside. Unexpressed grief. The heat of holding in what longs to be let out.

• Burning Off – The shedding of excess. The fire of ritual, of transformation. A necessary release.

• Burning Down – The architecture of old systems crumbling. A fierce clearing to make way for new growth.

🔥 Fire is not always destruction. Sometimes it’s just the next honest step in whatever direction we are headed in.

❄️ Is it Time to Cool Down?

Even the strongest fires eventually burn themselves out.

Cooling down is not avoidance.

Cooling down gives us space to integrate of what the heat revealed. What the heat taught us. What we’ve been teaching other.

Cooling down is how we tap into our wisdom. It’s capacity. It’s Creative Intelligence gained through stillness.

❄️ How Do You Cool Down?

Pause for a moment. Ask yourself:

🔹 What’s inflamed right now in my system?

🔹 What story, belief, or expectation is overheating my circuits?

🔹 What does my body long for to return it to balance?

🔹 What would cooling feel like right now? What colour, what shape, what rhythm would it have?

You might cool through:

• Water. Movement. Silence.

• Breathing in a way that undoes.

• Journaling until the fire turns to smoke… then to clear air.

Letting go of the need to prove your worth through continuing to burn.

🌀 Burn + Cool = Integration, Alchemy, Learning

This is the dance of Creative Intelligence.

It’s not about bypassing the heat…it’s about learning the right to metabolise it. This will be unique to everyone. There are no short cuts.

When we cool with care, we can make space for clarity.

We take the ashes of burnout and turn them into something regenerative.

We won’t lose our spark. We won’t lose our edge. We learn when things must rest.

🗝️ A Final Reflection

You don’t have to be on fire to matter.

Your worth is not found in your output, or your urgency, or your survival pattern.

Let the burn show you what matters.

Then let the cooling remind you and give yourself permission to go back to yourself. Only this time a wiser version of once was.

What’s burning in you today?

And what wants to be cooled?

I’ll meet you there.

In the resonance between the fire and the stillness.

A guide for leaders navigating change, loss, and all the spaces in-between.

Today, one of my executive coaching clients said something that stopped me mid-breath:

“I feel like I’m grieving, I am lost in all the chaos - parts of my role keep disappearing, there is no stability or certainty…and no one is talking about it.”

This wasn’t burnout.

This wasn’t resistance.

This was grief. But not the kind with flowers and condolences.

This was ambiguous loss…the kind that hides as roles constantly change, restructures, and the invisible rewiring of our identities.

It’s the loss of clarity, the loss of rhythm, the quiet departure of what once made sense.

I see this kind of grief in many of the leaders I work with…those wearing two, sometimes three hats, constantly adapting real-time, absorbing complexity, navigating uncertainty, holding the line, toughing it out.

But underneath it all? The ache of what goes unspoken, what is often unnamed. Grief.

We spent 90 minutes unpacking and making sense of things. The most powerful part of our coaching session was allowing the unravel, the witnessing and having someone receive the full felt experience, without judgement. Sharing and caring, being human.

We anchored next steps using these following three frames:

1. Mending Fences

Before we try to rebuild, reinvent, adapt we must acknowledge what’s different, what is broken. Not so we can fix it…but to honour it. To make it real.

Leadership asks us to hold space for what’s fraying and when we feel loss. Relationships drift, rituals vanish, trust wearing thin, empty desks, the once critically important project, now no more.

Mending fences isn’t about returning to what was. It’s about noticing the breaks. It’s about slowing down, even if only briefly, to notice. To tend and mend the pieces that still matter (including ourselves).

Leadership is not just about vision and execution it’s also about repair and renewal.

2. Building Bridges

Once we’ve noticed what needs our attention and care, we can begin again.

But this time we practice the art of presencing…we choose not to react or rush in our response.

We build next steps with intention…one end of the bridge to another. We don’t just “get over it”. Even if we say these words…the feelings, the invisible actions we must deploy to make things right again become our real work.

But…where does this remedial or restorative aspect of leadership fit? What spaces and time gets built into the change journey to process it all? If we leave the work undone, it snowballs. We know this.

Building bridges is not a solution. It’s creating connection within ourselves and being compassion with one other. It’s the willingness to listen, and wrap our arms around the stuff that derails us, our sense of being.

We must learn to meet people where they are in their change journey. We must hold space for paradox. This is deep necessary work for all leaders and we need to talk more about it. This is a 21st century leadership skill.

3. Telling Stories

As the ground becomes a little more steady and we are confident that the bridge we’ve built can hold the weight of our vision, we can then begin to tell our story.

Not the polished kind. Not the perfectly curated, branded update. These stories have edges that are still soft and fuzzy, still responding to the change as it unfolds.

This is what has changed. This is what I still carry. This is who I’m becoming. This is the direction we’re heading in, (for now!).

Storytelling is how we metabolise grief. It’s how teams reconnect. It’s how cultures evolve without erasing their past. Without compromising their future.

To lead through story isn’t to about controlling “the narrative” it’s about holding space for many narratives. We all grieve differently. Stories give voice to our very human in-between spaces.

Why This Matters Now

So many leaders are being asked to carry more, way more than ever before. More complexity, more uncertainty, more ambiguity.

And they’re doing it. Quietly, diligently, brilliantly. But often, they’re grieving as they go. And without space to name and speak to that grief, it settles in the body.

It flattens creativity. It hardens our edges. It dims the light that leadership needs to stay alive and relevant. Technology and AI solutions can only takes us so far.

Presence is the antidote.

Presence is the bridge.

Presence is the invitation to grieve and grow at the same time.

A Gentle Invitation

If you are leading through complexity or feel something quiet within you taking shape, I invite you to pause. The temptation to stay busy and distracted is very real. It is a form of avoidance, and we all that in the long run, it just makes things worse.

Ask yourself:

What fences might need mending within me or around me? Think boundaries. Think values.

Where could a bridge help me connect, and re-establish the vision rather than staying stuck or worse, emotionally checking out.

What story am I ready to tell, even if the ending is still unwritten?

We don’t have to lead with answers. But we can choose to honour the moment by being fully present.

Presence begins with noticing what no one else dares to name.

If this story resonates, I’d love to hear what you’re holding, navigating, or grieving quietly right now.

This space is for real stories to be shared. We are all part of a bigger ripple. We are the change we’ve all been waiting for.

Let’s name what most of us are taught to hide, reject, avoid.

There’s a part of you that wants to be admired, unconditionally.

A part that loves to be noticed.

A part that sometimes whispers:

“How about you let them see just how brilliant you are.”

And while we might side-eye this voice…shame it, silence it, or push it into the shadows…it never really goes away. In fact it can isolate us, make us feel lonely or rejected. It’s your inner narcissist calling out, wanting to be seen, heard, validated. And whether you’re conscious of it or not, it’s part of you. It is a part of each and everyone of us.

We’ve been conditioned to believe that narcissism is a flaw at best and a pathology at worst. Australia has a time honoured tradition for cutting down tall poppies. And when we see extreme or unhealthy expressions of narcissism in public life, yep you know what I’m thinking… grandstanding, gaslighting, manipulative leaders or social media excess, it’s understandable that we recoil. Our moral compass gets thrown way off balance. The cringe factor sets in and might even make us retreat from our own brilliance simply out of fear, or not wanting to appear arrogant or self centred.

But here’s the truth we rarely talk about:

Narcissism, like all emotions lives on a spectrum. And some of it is not only normal, but entirely necessary.

Unhealthy Narcissism vs Healthy Narcissism

Unhealthy narcissism stems from a fragile ego. It shows up as:

• A need to control or dominate conversations

• An inability to receive feedback

• A sense of superiority masking deep insecurity

• Lack of empathy or attunement to others

It’s performative, although sometimes it can be quiet and insidious, it’s extractive, and often rooted in unmet developmental needs from childhood. It feeds on validation and a need to control because the self underneath feels hollow, lacking in an ambiguous “something”, fractured not whole. If there is an unhealthy aspect of narcissism bubbling inside of you, then its time to do some work and get curious.

Healthy narcissism, on the other hand, is:

• The ability to take up space, acting with integrity and without apology

• Taking pride in your accomplishments, without needing to diminish or sideline anothers

• A clear sense of identity and self worth

• The capacity to shine…and let others shine too without resentment or jealousy

It’s what allows children to say “Look at me!” with unfettered joy. It’s the part of you that wants to create, to lead, to love openly and be loved in return. It’s not about superiority…it’s about visibility. Being seen. Mattering. Having an impact.

Why It’s Time to Reclaim Yours

When we suppress our narcissism, we don’t become virtuous…we become more disconnected from ourselves. This might look like:

• Playing small to avoid seeming arrogant

• Deny or minimise our own success or brilliance

• Stay stuck in roles that don’t reflect our true self, because we feel unworthy of better

• Project our desire to be seen onto others - sometimes unknowingly (and resent them for it, when they don’t validate us the way we we expected)

This fragmentation of our psyche costs us. Not just personally, but collectively. Because when leaders, creatives, and change-makers mute their healthy self-worth in fear of being “too much,” or “not enough” we lose access to bold ideas, embodied confidence, and the visionary energy, we need to propel our future. We need a new narrative…one that says:

You are allowed to be proud. You are allowed to be seen. You are allowed to matter.

What Integration Looks Like

This isn’t about swinging to the other extreme. It’s not about becoming a brand, a performance or charisma. It’s about leading yourself respectfully from a place of wholeness.

Integration means:

• Giving your healthy inner narcissist a seat at the table, but not the whole table.

• Balancing humility with self-assurance.

• Knowing your value without feeling the need to prove it constantly.

• Holding the paradox: You are indeed extraordinary…and so is everyone else. We all have our own unique talents!

When your healthy narcissism is fully integrated into your every day being, it becomes a source of grounded confidence. You no longer seek to impress others, you simply express yourself and show up authentically you.

Questions for Reflection

1. When do I feel most alive and proud of myself? Do I let myself stay there? Do I cut myself down or others in their moment of joy? Why?

2. What messages did I receive about “showing off” or being “too full of myself” or maybe as a child?

3. Where might I be playing too small (or too big) trying to avoid judgment or fear of rejection ie. not enough?

4. What does healthy visibility look and feel like for me?

5. If I trusted that my brilliance didn’t diminish anyone else’s, how might I show up differently?

The Invitation

You don’t need to hide your light. You don’t need to shrink to make others comfortable. There is nothing noble about pretending to be less than you are.

Reclaim your inner narcissist.

Not to dominate. But to illuminate.

Not to manipulate. But to liberate, yourself and give others permission to do the same.

Because the world needs people who can lead from the centre of their being. People who are visible, vulnerable, and whole.

And that starts with letting all of you…yes, even “that” part be seen.

As Richard Schwartz says in his book, No Bad Parts many of our struggles in life are related to our relationship with our own inner critic. But, what if there was no inner critic? No bad parts? Just parts that might need some extra love and attention!

In 2019, I had the privilege of working with a team of data scientists on a project aimed at embedding digital literacy across an organisation that was going through a radical change curve. At the time, Business Intelligence (BI) and Data Storytelling were just emerging as strategic imperatives. The market research was clear. The thought leaders and SME’s we collaborated with all agreed that failing to build digital literacy and fluency at every level in the organisation would mean struggling to compete in a rapidly evolving, multifaceted landscape.

To make this shift, we needed investment. Not just in technology but in people. A learning and development (L&D) budget had to be carved out to support re-skilling efforts, and that meant temporarily pulling employees away from their roles for some deep and in some instances transformational learning. Unlearning and relearning. Shifting from analogue thinking vs. digital thinking. More than that, it required a cultural shift from working with rigid hierarchies to a more collaborative, cross-functional way of working. Where data was no longer the exclusive domain of specialists but a shared language across the business. Aligning hearts and minds on a different way of working altogether. Getting ready to be ready for the predicted avalanche of digitisation.

We had a robust business case. The numbers made sense. We knew long-term benefits far outweighed the short-term disruption to the business. We knew that our teams would be more productive more engaged in learning and experimenting, if things were transparent and we walked with them on the change journey.

And yet, the CEO (at the time) and therefore the Executive Team dismissed it outright. There was no space or interest in challenging the status quo. Short term thinking at its best.

The reasoning? People will adapt, people will change like they always do. And they do, for the most part. But at what cost? The costs are so often hidden. They manifest under the radar, disengagement, burn out and then organisational dissonance starts to take hold. People go one way or the other, either looking for ways to avoid the problem, or those who decide to take it on collapse under the weight of the change. There are no winners, everyone suffers including the business. We just can’t see it, it creeps in through the back door and those at the top come up with 101 excuses or reasons to downplay it all until it all becomes unbearably difficult. Intolerable.

In my case, that short-term mindset that rigidly prioritised quarterly business results over systemic transformation efforts proved to be a costly exercise. The belief that digital fluency would naturally emerge as employees encountered new tools without structured learning, without time to build competence, without executive buy-in was naive at best and reckless leadership at its worst.

Fast-forward a few years, and the consequences of this decision have played out with painful clarity in so many businesses.

The gap between Readiness and Reality is showing up everywhere right now.

When the deluge of digitisation was accelerated by the pandemic and the subsequent AI revolution, this business, like many others, found itself completely unprepared. They shed staff, the tried to hire in the talent they needed but it wasn’t there. The divide between actual and required skills widened dramatically. Employees struggled to make sense of the new data-driven landscape. Leadership teams that once dismissed digital literacy as a nice to have or saw it as an organic learning journey are now scrambling to play catch-up.

This isn’t unfortunately an isolated case. Across nearly every industry, the same pattern has emerged. Organisations that had proactively invested in digital literacy, data fluency, and AI integration are now leading the charge. Those that didn’t? They are or their employees are stuck in reactive mode, trying to retrofit skills, processes, and mindsets to a world that has already moved on. On top of a busy workload already.

The AI Revolution: A Ticking Clock

We are now facing an even more profound shift with artificial intelligence. The World Economic Forum’s Future of Jobs Report 2025 projects a net gain of 78 million jobs by 2030, but with 92 million roles being displaced. Meanwhile, the International Monetary Fund (IMF) warns that AI will impact 40% of global jobs, with advanced economies seeing effects on up to 60% of roles.

These are not theoretical forecasts. It is unfolding as we speak. The distraction and pace is dizzying.

History is repeating itself.

Many organisations still believe that employees will adapt organically to AI or believe that younger generations will just be able to handle it all. The rest of us, well they will just have to somehow figure it out in the flow of their work, without any structured learning, without leadership alignment, without deliberate cultural transformation. Without cultivating new ways of working.

This is a dangerous miscalculation and once resistance takes hold it only gets tougher.

Lessons for Leaders: What Needs to Happen Now

If 2019 taught me anything, it’s that organisations who haven’t risen to meet disruption will inevitably sink to the level of their preparedness. And right now, preparedness demands three non-negotiables:

1. Accelerate AI Upskilling & Digital Literacy

The IMF estimates that 44% of workers will require re-skilling within the next five years.

Companies like Google report that 25% of their new code is AI-generated, and Meta is planning to replace mid-level engineers with AI by 2025.

Every role whether in tech, HR, finance, or marketing will require new competencies. AI literacy is no longer optional. Emotional and systemic intelligence is no longer optional either.

2. Embed AI into Core Strategy

AI adoption is not just an IT project. It is a whole of business transformation.

Organisations must now move beyond experimentation and develop structured AI roadmaps that address workforce impacts, including ethical and human wellbeing considerations, and cultural readiness.

AI should not be a means to replace people, it should enhance human potential. That requires deliberate design, redesign of roles and co-creative work practices. And… the wisdom to know that we now live and work in a circular economy. Everything that goes around, eventually comes around. There is nowhere else to look…its life as we know it. Biting into our old and outdated personal and institutional belief systems harder with each revolution.

3. Shift from Short-Term Thinking to Systems Leadership

The businesses that dismissed digital literacy in 2019 are now playing a costly game of catch-up. The same fate awaits those who ignore AI preparedness today.

Leaders must break free from quarterly-result myopia and take a systems approach to workforce transformation. Educating every level of the business, this is a team sport. Everyone must participate and be involved.

Collaboration, adaptability, and cultural agility will become the new competitive advantages. Realigning to this way of working is a huge shift for us all. But it has to happen. We need to create the conditions for this to happen, instead of resisting or fighting against it.

The Path Ahead

The gravity of the AI revolution and that it connects with just about every touch point in our lives is not something we can afford to ignore or simply react to when it happens…it is the new status quo, something we must actively and thoughtfully shape everyday…Like all things in life even the smallest shifts, eventually lead to big shifts.

Working in the space of behavioural and organisational change is what I do, it’s a dynamic and co-creative energy that needs to be developed and nurtured. It requires time and attention…lots of listening, contemplating and shaping

What choices are you grappling with right now? How are feeling?

For a long time, I thought fulfilment was something that came after achievement. I chased it through hard work, recognition, and ticking off all the “shoulds” on my invisible life checklist. I once saw it as a destination, a place I would arrive at (surely) once I had done enough, proved enough, been enough.

But then something unexpected happened.

I started working closely with a number of high-achieving senior executives (all genders) scientists, creatives, engineers, entrepreneur’s, and emerging leaders who had spent years climbing ladders, breaking barriers, and achieving extraordinary things - just like me. And over and over again, I heard the same thing:

I’ve done everything I was supposed to do, by all accounts I have achieved some level of success, I am happy, I’m grateful but I don’t feel fulfilled?

It was a question I understood deeply. Because I have been there, too.

Busting the Myth of Fulfilment as a Finish Line…

The more I listened to these incredible leaders and clients, the more I saw the pattern. They weren’t ungrateful for their success. They weren’t lacking ambition. But somewhere along the way, they had lost themselves and their true identity in the pursuit of the next goal, the next milestone, the next external marker of self-worth.

And when we worked together, when we slowed down, questioned old narratives, beliefs and reconnected with what truly mattered to them in life, something shifted.

They stopped chasing fulfilment like a prize at the end of a race. Instead, they started feeling it in real time. Real breakthroughs come into being when we look at the world from a place of fulfilment. As if we were already there. This is where we do our best work. Where we make the best decisions.

Fulfilment isn’t a trophy or a bonus. It is a feeling, a sensation. And it often shows up in ways when we least expect it. Moments of serendipity, alignment, visceral sensations in the body. However if we are too busy, too stressed, we can so easily miss these moments. We can forget to allow our feelings to shine, to allow them to be fully expressed.

What Does Fulfilment Feel Like?

If you’re wondering whether you’re experiencing fulfilment or if you are still in pursuit of it here’s what I’ve found as to how it actually feels like, both in my own life and in the lives of the people I get to coach and work with:

1. A Deep Sense of Enoughness

Fulfilment is the moment you realise you are no longer in competition with others or with yourself. It’s when you stop measuring your worth by how much you’ve earned, how much you’ve accomplished or worked your heart out for and start feeling the quiet, steady certainty that you are already enough, just as you are.

I remember the first time I truly felt this. I was sitting with a cup of tea, in my garden, listening to the birds, no deadlines pressing, no expectations weighing on me. And for the first time in a long time, I didn’t feel the need to do anything to justify my existence. I was enough. Full stop.

2. Internal Alignment Over External Approval

Many of the clients I work with have spent years in high performance mode. Contorting themselves into cultures that weren’t designed for them, making themselves palatable, shaping their ambitions to match the expectations of others.

But fulfilment comes when your internal compass becomes louder than the external noise. When your decisions aren’t based on what will makes you look successful, accepted, loved…but on what actually feels right for you. Sounds easy, but we all know it is not. Lots of reshaping and reframing how we see ourselves, and the world around us. Tough but necessary work, if we truly want to get to experience that elusive feeling of fulfilment.

I see this shift happen when leaders reclaim their own definition of success…when they realise they don’t have to play by the old rules anymore. Permission.

3. Sense of Spaciousness, even in during Busy Times

Fulfilment doesn’t mean you have no responsibilities. It doesn’t mean life is suddenly easy or stress-free.

But it does mean you stop rushing through it all. Living your life, so jam packed there is barely space to breathe.

I used to fill every moment with doing. If I had an empty space in my calendar, I’d immediately look for ways to be productive and fill that time with busy work. But the most fulfiled people I know, myself included, have learned the power of internalising this feeling of spaciousness. They create their own margins. They leave room for thinking, for being, for breathing. For practice, for creation. Experimenting begins with maybe feeling a little guilty or waiting for the other shoe to drop. But I can tell you, if you stay with it long enough, and with the right support, it comes into being.

4. A Calm Excitement for the Future (Without Desperation to Get There)

One of the biggest misconceptions about fulfilment is that it makes you or will make you complacent or lazy. That once you feel it, you stop striving, dreaming, or setting big enough goals.

That couldn’t be further from the truth in real life. But those old narratives and social constructs are hard to shift.

The difference is that your ambitions will shift from fear-based striving to desire-driven creation. You still want to build, to grow, to contribute but you’re no longer so desperate about arriving at said destination.

You trust yourself. You start to authentically enjoy the process.

I see this in with leaders and career shifters who finally learn to give themselves permission to pursue what they truly love not because they need to prove anything, but because they want to experience joy and fulfilment in their work. And, I ask myself why wouldn’t you want to experience joy (Atleast some of the time) through your work? When was the last time someone you or someone you know said that! Permission granted.

5. A Full-Body Sense of Peace

Fulfilment isn’t just in the mind. It’s deep, it’s in the body. We must connect with ourselves, our inner world to truly feel it.

It’s the absence of the ever-present tightness in your chest.

It’s the way your shoulders soften when you realise you don’t have to carry everything alone.

It’s the deep breath you take when you know, in your bones, that you are exactly where you are meant to be.

I felt this most profoundly when I stopped striving for someone else’s version of success and started living in alignment with my own values. It was like my body finally exhaled after so many years of holding its breath, waiting.

If You’re Not Feeling “It” Yet…

That’s okay. Fulfilment isn’t always a constant state (although I am testing that out right now) it’s something you dip in and out of. And sometimes, we need to unlearn old beliefs and let go of old habits before we can truly experience it.

So if you’re feeling stuck in the achievement trap, ask yourself:

Am I chasing someone else’s definition of success?

Am I making space to enjoy what I’ve already built for myself already?

What would it look like to trust myself instead of seeking constant external validation?

Fulfilment isn’t something that waits for you at the end of the road. It’s something you cultivate now, in the way you move through your day, in the choices you make, in the moments you allow yourself to truly be vs. doing.

I’d love to hear one moment in your life when you felt fulfiled? Drop a comment or share your story. It’s a great way to create a ripple, start noticing and sharing with others this wonderful feeling.

It is a kind of surrender, not in the sense of giving up, but in the art of letting go of control, of the need to have all the answers, lifting the weight of expectation off our shoulders. No longer feeling the compulsion of leaving a legacy or our indelible mark on the world. This is not denial, avoidance or resignation; this is our inner wisdom telling us its time to let go of who we were and coming into a new era of being.

When we are young, we are taught to believe that knowledge is power. And it is. But over time, we begin to learn that wisdom is not just accumulating knowledge; it is knowing what to hold onto, and what, when and how to release it (and whom with).

Often these moments can come all at the same time. Yes, The Overwhelm - we’ve all been there, some more than most.

It is coming to grips with understanding and accepting that we will never know everything and that is not our job, nor our purpose. Our only real job is to get to know ourselves deeply enough to navigate our own path with integrity, clarity, and hopefully peace. This of course looks and feels different for each of us or may even feel completely out of reach. The fog of fear and uncertainty can indeed be thick and feel impenetrable at so many junctures in our lives.

What we each decide from here - who we follow, who we believe in is going to be what shapes the next era of our being. Are we good with our current beliefs? Is it time for an upgrade or a shakedown? Are we good with what is currently unfurling here and overseas? Are we sure about who we are following, who we let near our ears?

After trying to digest the last few months of political craziness, as surreal as it feels…I keep asking myself…What is my place, what is my role now in all of this? Whilst it might have been a long gone strategy of mine, the thought (whilst still decidedly tempting) of hiding under a rock for the next 4 years, would not, in fact be a viable idea.

Choices

One of the most challenging aspects of this transition in world power is recognising that the parts of ourselves or the versions of us that fought, struggled, sacrificed, and endured may no longer serve us in this particular season of being.

We do have a choices…we can go along with it, ignore it or divert our attention. Or we can reclaim, release, or reshape these parts whilst we prepare for better, kinder (more human centred) times. For some this is the first time, they are bearing witness to this type of change - it might even feel exciting or even a dream come true. These parts are just beginning to grow in some people and what they will grow into what we cannot rightly say at this time. Nature and nurture of course will continue to play its part, but our leaders or those we allow to hold positions of authority play the biggest role. They shape the hearts, minds and behaviours of their followers. They are our role models.

If you are like me and are currently attempting to reconcile these unsettling shifts within yourself, here is my way of wrapping my arms around it all:

1. Acknowledge all past versions of yourself with love, gratitude and forgiveness. Every version of yourself that ever existed was for a reason. Even the parts we learned to outgrow or felt forced to suppress were (and may still be) necessary for reasons that may never be fully known or understood. Accepting the mysteries of life is all part of the journey.

2. Recognise the new season we are stepping into is just that, another season. Not duck season, not rabbit season…but a stormy and volatile one, a valid season nonetheless. We know what these seasons look like - history is a powerful teacher. We would all love to believe the fantasy, that this time it will be different - but deep down we know it won’t and we all learn some more. It is a season that has a beginning and one that will also have an ending.

3. Knowing that just because we carried the proverbial baton for ourselves (or others) for so long doesn’t give us a pass out of this mess nor does it mean we must hold onto that baton forever. I believe that our wisdom is telling us to let go, and to pass it on to someone else. It’s ok. We know you still care.

4. Redefining your contribution to your work and life. Know that Leadership and influence do not always look like dictatorship or pretending that you are centre of the universe. Leadership means pausing, contemplating, readjusting, mentoring, supporting, advising or even stepping back to observe and learn from others. Allowing things to fail is all part of the creative cycle of life.

Finding Clarity in the Changing Tide

I’ve made my decision and am surrendering this anguished, bitter and twisted part of myself and recycling that energy back to a younger time in my life when I thought I knew it all. I will watch. I will observe and contribute to this new season from a place of innocence, curiosity and creativity. I will honour myself and use my heart and my head in equal proportions as I navigate these uncharterd waters. I will learn and recreate myself anew. I will reframe the meaning of surrender for myself so it does not feel like defeat. I will return to balance and inner peace. I am practicing the Art of Sage-ing.

Que Sera Sera

What now?

Do we realign, abandon old truths, and switch camps?

Do we fight, holding fast to our sense of integrity despite the cost to our hearts and minds?

Do we watch, conserve energy and start choosing our battles more carefully?

And what if this shift happens is not happening in some distant place but right now in your workplace, maybe even your home or community? What if leadership takes a turn toward extreme authoritarianism, where gaslighting becomes the norm, or values once universally championed are now dismissed and reframed as naive or stupid? How do we prepare for these moments of reckoning? What does common sense look like anymore?

Accepting the Reality of What Is…

To navigate change, we must first accept that it exists. There are narcissists among us. Liars, bullies, manipulators, and even those who would gladly harm others for their own gain. They operate in the same spaces we do offices, boardrooms, industries, families and communities. They don’t all wear these labels loudly, and often, they have found a way to thrive within the very systems we came to trust.

Perhaps we needed this so that we could all see things clearly. My instinct is to resist, however I know that the sooner I accept this reality, the more agency and energy we I will have in choosing how to respond.

The Three Choices I’ve been grappling with: Realign, Resist, or Observe

1. Realign & Adapt

This is the choice of accepting the shift and deciding to move with it. Some might call it winning, others survival, others betrayal. It can also mean letting go of our moral compass, aligning with new power structures, or finding new ways to work within them.

Key Journal Prompt: Can I maintain my own integrity while adapting? If not, what will this cost me?

2. Resist & Fight

The hardest path. It means standing up for my values, even when it is uncomfortable, risky, and lonely. Resisting could mean speaking up and out, leaving people and environments, or pushing back against destructive behaviors.

Key Journal Prompt: Do I have the resilience and support systems to sustain this level of resistance? This is an individual and collective issue… If we don’t have this in place for ourself already, what do we need to build it?

3. Observe & Strategise

What if my best move isn’t taking immediate action but pausing, watching, learning, and waiting for the right moment. This is not passive; it is calculated, it is strategic. It means keeping my ethics and principles intact while gathering insights on how to move forward.

Key Journal Prompt: What does patience or pausing afford me in this moment that action does not?

When Your Workplace Flips…

Workplaces are microcosms of society, and when they shift, we feel it in real-time. Leadership styles change. Policies tighten or loosen. What was once celebrated is now criticised. Those who were once detested may suddenly gain power, and those who hold it now may resist or retaliate.

If you find yourself in a workplace that is flipping and sensing that a radical shift is occurring, it is important to assess:

What is actually changing? Is it leadership, culture, power structures, ethics?

What do you stand for? Personally and collectively? And can you tolerate it here, at this time and place?

What do you need to do to be ready for what comes next? Build trusted networks, strengthen financial independence, develop an alternative career path, or cultivate new coping skills/resilience?

Getting Ready for the Flip? My take - Build Multiple Paths

I believe the more options you have professionally, financially, and socially the freer you are to choose your response.

1.Stay Grounded in Your Own Values

Clarity in your core beliefs allows you to navigate complexity without losing yourself in the process or getting caught in the weeds.

2.Cultivate Psychological Resilience

Shifts in power and values can be deeply unsettling. Meditation, therapy, coaching, or strong social ties with family, friends and communities can help anchor you.

3.Know When to Stay and When to Leave

Not every battle is worth fighting, and not every personal/work environment or relationship is worth saving.

Key Journal Prompt: Who Do You Really Want to Be When You Grow Up?

When the world flips, our choices define us. Will you be someone who went along for the ride, someone who stood against the tide, or someone who paused, waited patiently and moved through it gracefully and strategically?

There is no single right answer, only the one that aligns best with the person who you want to be.

It is inevitable, the flip is coming. Are you ready?

Perhaps we can navigate this space together? I am ready.